|
When the Labels Don't Fit: A New Approach to Raising a Challenging Child | 
 enlarge | Author: Barbara Probst
Publisher: Three Rivers Press
Category: Book
List Price: $13.95
Buy Used: $4.74
You Save: $9.21 (66%)
New (38) Used (21) from $4.74
Rating:  10 reviews
Sales Rank: 257544
Media: Paperback
Pages: 288
Number Of Items: 1
Shipping Weight (lbs): 0.5
Dimensions (in): 8.2 x 5.4 x 0.9
ISBN: 030739543X
Dewey Decimal Number: 649.153
EAN: 9780307395436
ASIN: 030739543X
Publication Date: August 26, 2008
Availability: Usually ships in 1-2 business days
| |
| Also Available In:
|
| Similar Items:
|
| Editorial Reviews:
Product Description
#8220;One of the finest and most helpful books we have ever read . . . should be the first stop for any parent trying to help a struggling child.#8221; br#8212;Brock Eide and Fernette Eide, authors of iThe Mislabeled Child/ibrbrFinally, a positive approach designed around your child#8217;s traits and needsbrbrMany children do things that seem odd, troubling, or excessive at some point in their development, and our culture is quick to attach a label to every child who#8217;s #8220;outside the box#8221; or hard to raise. Again and again, studies document the explosion in the number of children receiving psychiatric diagnoses for being intense, moody, or offbeat. brbrIn this groundbreaking book, childhood development expert Barbara Probst provides a new framework for identifying the specific traits#8212;like rigidity, curiosity, perfectionism, intensity, slow tempo, a need for novelty, or a need for control#8212;that lie at the root of your child#8217;s challenging behavior. brbriWhen the Labels Don#8217;t Fit /ifeatures a questionnaire for profiling your child#8217;s temperament and more than sixty strategies for dealing with specific kinds of behavior. It#8217;s the first comprehensive system that#8217;s not based on figuring out what#8217;s #8220;wrong#8221; with your child, but on helping you tap into your child#8217;s strengths so you can manage, nurture, and enjoy his or her essential nature.
|
| Customer Reviews: Read 5 more reviews...
An enlightened and compassionate change of perspective October 13, 2008
Judith Lindbergh
Barbara Probst offers an enlightened and cogent rearrangement of perspective in her excellent new book When the Labels Don't Fit. In this compassionate guide, she asks parents to change their focus from their child's behavior to his or her temperament, regarding difficult reactions not as defiance or inscrutability, but as rich and valuable elements of personality. It's a subtle difference, but this book is all about subtle shifts that make huge impacts. br / br /Using a comprehensive questionnaire early in the book as guide, Probst urges parents not only to examine a child's reactions, preferences and attitudes, but also to reflect keenly their own. Parents' answers help to reframe the initial question from "Why is my child doing this?" to "Who is my child?" She provides numerous examples and strategies aimed at mitigating the many bewildering incidents that parents often face. By turning the spotlight onto parents' personal tendencies and preferences, Probst encourages them to think a little deeper about their child and themselves, and guides them to embrace the uniqueness of their challenging child. br /
Fantastic! Finally the book we need! September 26, 2008
Heidi Molbak (New Orleans, LA)
As parents we know they are unusual in their intensity and rigidity but we also sense our children do not necessarily have a disorder. We see them as eccentric, sensitive, thinkers who feel deeply. Pediatricians and mental health professionals often find they fit the criteria for Aspergers, ADHD, Anxiety or other diagnoses. But DO they really have these? Barbara Probst gives us answers for how to approach and support our challenging and often very gifted youngsters who need us to understand them, not change them. She shows us practical strategies for learning about ways in which we can work with their temperaments - especially when they are different from our own. This book is a very important contribution to the field and the children will some day thank her for writing it.
an excellent tool for parents of challenging children September 21, 2008
tired mom
I was very excited to read Barbara Probst's book and to see the focus on our children's characteristics, rather than a slew of diagnostic conditions--the "alphabet" kids. After reading endless parenting books which set out discipline techniques which only work for a short time, this book instead helps parents look at their children as people and try to understand their specific needs and temperments. I often catch myself engaging in a dispute with my challenging son, and using Barbara's techniques I am able to take a step back and realize that he has a strong need that is interfering with what I view as a simple request. Once I change my mindset, I can often avoid a huge blowup and have him ultimately cooperative, even if it takes a few extra minutes or a little extra effort. This book can bring big changes and improvements in the lives of families with challenging children.
Wonderfully optomisitc September 18, 2008
J. Schultz (New York)
I started reading Barbara's book the other night and I stayed up WAY too late reading and reading and reading. What a relief to find an approach to undestanding and appreciating my very difficult little boy. Barbara's approach to temperament and to understanding the core character traits of a difficult child is really refreshing and so OPTOMISTIC. I am already recommending this book to everyone I know who is struggling with their children, and let's be honest, who isn't!!!!
When the Labels Don't Fit September 17, 2008
Amy Price
With insightful explanations and easy-to-apply tips, this book is a valuable tool for parents. Probst provides strategies that can't help but improve the quality of life for both child and parent. When the Labels Don't Fit is a book that can -- and should -- be shared with family, teachers and others who are important in a child's life. br /Amy Price br /Executive Director br /SENG
|
|
|
Powered by Associate-O-Matic
| |
